A question, any helpers?

As you discovered is painful when you are a virgin. Your second time will not be painfull but make sure you two are having fourplay before hand (it always make you more relaxed) like kissing rubbing, etc until you are . Women take longer to feel pleasure since with us it is all mental. So if you have it in your head that it is gonna hurt, it will. Make sure you are practicing safe , and if you are now ually active seeing a GYN is a MUST.